Lately, I’ve been feeling more and more that fashion shouldn’t be confined to one style. Whether it’s sweet or spicy, why can’t I have both? I’ve come to realize that as long as I’m happy with what I wear, who says I can’t be sugar and fire at the same time?
Just a few days ago, I was going through my wardrobe, torn again between something soft and something bold. Saturday’s weather was perfect — sunny but not hot, ideal for dressing up. I didn’t hesitate to pick my off-shoulder top. It’s simple, made of soft white cotton, not too tight, but the way it bares just the right amount of collarbone and shoulder gives it a quiet, effortless charm. With a hair clip and a little gloss, I felt like the lead in a Korean drama.
But I didn’t want to look overly sweet or too safe. So, I paired it with a ruffled skirt — still very feminine, but in black with an asymmetrical hemline. The layers of ruffles swayed gently as I walked, adding a flirtatious vibe that was sweet with a dash of mystery. It felt like a little secret hiding in the folds of the fabric: I’m soft, but don’t underestimate me.
Since the wind was picking up a little, I threw on my cropped leather jacket. Honestly, it’s probably the boldest piece in my wardrobe. Sharp tailoring, sleek texture, and that cropped cut that hits right at the waist — zip it up and you’re instantly more confident. I love how it clashes just enough with the romantic ruffles and the delicate shoulder-baring top. It’s sweet, it’s spicy, and it’s totally me.
I wore my white canvas sneakers that day too. A lot of people think canvas shoes are too casual or too “school girl” for a bold outfit, but I think that’s exactly what makes them perfect. There’s a laid-back vibe about them that no pair of heels can match. Especially when I’m playing with contrasts — sweet and spicy, soft and strong — that touch of “doesn’t-care” from the sneakers adds just the right balance. Plus, comfy feet after a full day out? Yes, please.
That night over dinner, my friend looked at me and smiled, “You’ve been dressing a lot bolder lately.” I laughed while nibbling on some fried chicken and said, “I guess I’m finally done putting myself in a box. Fashion should be fun — and multi-dimensional.” She nodded and told me I’ve been looking more radiant lately, more like I’ve found my own style.
On the way home, I caught my reflection in a shop window and thought: I kind of want to try something even bolder — like a little cami top. I used to think my shoulders weren’t pretty enough, but now, I feel more and more open to experimenting. Maybe one day soon, I’ll pair it with some denim or faux leather shorts, throw on an oversized shirt or a light jacket, and just walk out the door like I own it.
I’ve realized that personal style is just like your mood — it doesn’t have to be the same every day. Some days I want to be cute and sweet in florals, ruffles, or off-shoulder tops. Other days, I want a leather jacket, a cami, and some serious sunglasses. No one gets to tell me who I should be. Every version is still me.
Why choose just one style? I want to try them all. Sweet or spicy — bring it on!
